isadore did the most amazing thing tonight. i was at the dinner table, post-dinner, slid low in my chair. it was one of those two-people-with-needs-and-not-enough-to-go-around kind of days with the husband. i was looking out the window trying to conceal my tears from the disappointment and loneliness i was feeling, and she skipped into the room with her normal isadore energy. she stopped mid-question (kids always enter a room already talking to you) and noted my tears, and began to in her flair-for-drama way take exaggerated steps backward, to un-tip-toe herself out of the room.
at that moment i
shut my eyes very tight. i didn't want to think about anything, about
how she was receiving me, what kind of memory i was creating for her,
what kind of weepy mother i was being, i just needed to pause in my
lacking without consideration. on my island of a moment i was surprised
to feel a warm breeze blow in, and that breeze was isadore wrapping her
arms around me, with complete acceptance. it felt like medicine, and i
was equally comforted as i was amazed at her ability to see what i
needed and be brave enough to give it to me. plenty of times my tears have turned into anger at whomever happened to be within snapping distance. perhaps she wasn't afraid
of my sadness because she knew it had nothing to do with her; she didn't
take it personally, and she had it in her heart to meet this need she'd stumbled upon. i immediately
let out a sob, i felt so safe doing so. she said to me "i have been
wanting to do this all day." and i thanked her and thanked her and thanked her again.